Thursday, May 01, 2008
Sex Talkin Trends - today - while singing that song, "Bubbly" --('goes something like, Please take your time where ever you go... ) - which resonates in this conversation, so pull-your-chair-closer - ('fore I break out that 60's-hippy-let's form a circle feel-good-motto "love the one with you're with") - Ah, those were the days.
We're Living in a get it now...'bigger-usually-means-better' -world where happiness, and super-sized are blurred.-
Leaving behind a-we-need-more-and-longer to feel-good; 'appearing unsatisfied if we don't pull all-nighties -- but, according to this research -- it's actually already under our our covers (well, those of us lucky enough to have somebody sharing that bed).
Offering Quality over marathon sessions: "sex doesn't have to last all night long to be good," says Dr. Eric Corty. "Even 45 minutes is unrealistic, for both men and women. Soreness and lubrication become an issue..." - I know some folk willing to work through that pain for bragging-brownie-points of a major marathon session: "Intercourse is not the end-all be-all. Most women don't derive full satisfaction from intercourse. The anatomical reality is, most women don't have as much sensation in the vagina as in the clitoris, which has thousands upon thousands of nerve-endings."
"Porn has become the major sex educator for men. It gives us a totally misleading reality of lovemaking," says that article. And in a quick fix, it's alright...helps stimulate creativity when you do get some.
Penetrative sex is only one piece of the puzzle, and good sex is less a function of duration -- or stature -- than the quality of a relationship, they offer. "If a couple allows dust to get into the relationship, problems start. Frustration, irritation, annoyance and anger are real, but if they don't deal with it, it will neutralize sexual desire. The mind and body are very linked,"
Ecuador's solution? -- Takes a modern "respect me" approach in RE-defining women's rights, saying that "the right to sexual enjoyment means ensuring women can make free, responsible and informed decisions about their sex lives."
Claiming, I'm not just a vessel for your pleasure, I have a brain too...well, Ladies, that over-thinking sexuality can also backfire-on-you if you go too overboard...
This Study says Thinking is bad - (and Dumb-and-dumber-ing and letting loose 'are also essential to rocking those sheets)
Smarty-pants looking for book-learning in bed is just not smart; 'cause brainiacs are less likely to be fully-satisfied in bed (Source: MomLogic)
- 62% of women who had completed college said they often had problems achieving orgasm. While, only 38% of less educated women said it was hard to hit the big O.
For your consumption, in finding a 'happy medium'
here are momlogic's top 3 ways to turn off your overthinking brain in the bedroom:
- Roleplay: When you pretend to be someone else such as a secretary or French maid, it's easier to tune out nagging thoughts about your to-do list.
- Music: When you create a "sexual soundtrack," it can help focus your thoughts on desire instead of distractions.
- Fantasize: Thinking about Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or David Beckham can pump up your desire and push less sexy thoughts (laundry, bills, homework) out of your mind.
'Holla at me with your own three cents on this topicLabels: Culture, sex talk
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